Most people have experienced invalidated feelings. You feel cold and someone in the room with you says "What? It's not cold in here". Does that really change how you feel? Do you all of a sudden say "you know what, you're right, I'm not cold". Probably not. You're more likely to feel irritated. In a [...]
One way to understanding how a person operates while in the cycle of sex addiction is to look through the lens of Transactional Analysis, which is a theory of psychology that considers the ego states that we operate from when we interact with ourselves, others, and the world. Those ego states include Parent, Adult, and [...]
When approaching recovery from sex addiction, why is it important to work with a professional who specializes in this area? One of the reasons is the knowledge that compulsive sexual behaviors are often less a product of sexual arousal, and more of an attempt to cope with unattended shame or trauma. With that understanding, those [...]
Much of American culture values being individualistic, which can discourage having a reliance or dependence on others. You have probably heard someone say “I had to do it myself”, when describing how he or she accomplished something. On further examination, most stories like this would likely reveal at least one support person who helped in [...]
Imagine a highly addictive drug that is available 24 hours a day, offered for free in large quantities in the comfort of your own home, and injected just by viewing it. For anyone who understands addiction, it is easy to understand how internet pornography is a perfect recipe for compulsive use.