One way to understanding how a person operates while in the cycle of sex addiction is to look through the lens of Transactional Analysis, which is a theory of psychology that considers the ego states that we operate from when we interact with ourselves, others, and the world. Those ego states include Parent, Adult, and [...]
Partners often struggle with the need to control the recovery program for their addict. They might prescribe how often the addict needs to attend groups, see a counselor, and share his/her triggers, urges and thoughts around the addiction. Some partners require the addict to have screening software on all personal technology, and even undergo regular [...]
If you have recently discovered your partner has a sexual or pornography addiction, you might be overwhelmed. So what are some things you can do to begin your healing process? In the recovery path of the partner, there will be some band-aid short term stabilization strategies, to get you through the initial days and weeks [...]
My Partner Has a Sexual/Pornography Addiction What Does This Mean For Me? One of the most difficult things to deal with is watching someone you love suffer and struggle with painful life experiences. Whether it is your partner, your child, your parent or your best friend. Being a support for someone who is struggling is [...]
In this multi-part series for the partners of sex addicts we've taken a look at the traumas that often accompany the discovery of your partner's sex addiction and during the early stages of recovery. In this post we'll outline some suggestions for keeping yourself safe during these days of early recovery. First a few words [...]
In this 3rd part of the series for the partners of sex addicts, we'll address some of the forms of trauma that many of our clients who are partners of sex addicts experience. Realize that not all of these forms of trauma apply to everyone. Our clients usually report more than one form of trauma [...]
In the first part of this series we talked briefly about the blame some partners feel about their sexually addicted partner's behaviors. In this post we'll dig a little deeper. Many partners of sex addicts not only feel some blame or responsibility for their partner's behavior, they also think they can make changes in themselves [...]
I'll be writing in this series about the issues many of our clients who are partners of sex addicts face as they work towards healing from the addiction. I'll offer some ideas and suggestions for healthy boundaries, some things to do to take care of yourself, and, hopefully, some new insights that help you realize [...]
Imagine a highly addictive drug that is available 24 hours a day, offered for free in large quantities in the comfort of your own home, and injected just by viewing it. For anyone who understands addiction, it is easy to understand how internet pornography is a perfect recipe for compulsive use.
Sex addiction can be understood in many ways. In this post we look at sex addiction through attachment theory and understanding some of the motivations for acting out behaviors.