Most people have experienced invalidated feelings. You feel cold and someone in the room with you says "What? It's not cold in here". Does that really change how you feel? Do you all of a sudden say "you know what, you're right, I'm not cold". Probably not. You're more likely to feel irritated. In a [...]
One way to understanding how a person operates while in the cycle of sex addiction is to look through the lens of Transactional Analysis, which is a theory of psychology that considers the ego states that we operate from when we interact with ourselves, others, and the world. Those ego states include Parent, Adult, and [...]
If you have recently discovered your partner has a sexual or pornography addiction, you might be overwhelmed. So what are some things you can do to begin your healing process? In the recovery path of the partner, there will be some band-aid short term stabilization strategies, to get you through the initial days and weeks [...]
The 12 step community gets it right. The step work and sponsorship ARE the program. I know of many people who attend 12 step recovery meetings but never dig into the step work. There are probably as many reasons as there are people who attend but don't enter into sponsorship. I'd like to suggest a [...]
In this multi-part series for the partners of sex addicts we've taken a look at the traumas that often accompany the discovery of your partner's sex addiction and during the early stages of recovery. In this post we'll outline some suggestions for keeping yourself safe during these days of early recovery. First a few words [...]
Sex addiction can be understood in many ways. In this post we look at sex addiction through attachment theory and understanding some of the motivations for acting out behaviors.
A three phase approach to treating sex addiction may be simple, but it's not easy. Addiction is a way of life. Recovery is a way of life. Which will you choose?
Here are 6 tips for staying in recovery from sex addiction. If you want to keep relapse at bay, realize that recovery is a way of life - and incorporating these tips will help you stay in recovery.