For many people who struggle with sexual addiction, identifying the triggers - this people, places, things, smells, sounds, emotions, etc. - that bring about urges to use is a critical step to establishing sobriety. The people we work with who struggle with sexual addiction often are unable to identify specific triggers. They'll say things like, [...]
In this 3rd part of the series for the partners of sex addicts, we'll address some of the forms of trauma that many of our clients who are partners of sex addicts experience. Realize that not all of these forms of trauma apply to everyone. Our clients usually report more than one form of trauma [...]
Addiction can be conceptualized as the mal-adaptive way in which we deal with life's difficulties. Understanding this and what keeps us from dealing with life's difficulties in more healthy ways can be the key to resolving sex addiction.
Here are 10 tips to staying sober and preventing relapse into sex addiction.
During the holidays stress increases. When this happens an addict's addictive behaviors often increase. Could your spouse have an addiction that is exacerbated by the stress of the holidays?
The holidays bring on extra stress and demands for many of us. If you use your addiction to pornography or sex as a stress reliever, you may notice an increase in these behaviors during this time of year. There is a way out. You can live without unwanted sexual activities and without pornography.
Sometimes one addiction is used to replace another addiction which was originally used to escape from difficult life situations. Sound familiar?
Summer time situations can be stressors for many people. Recognize that these stressors can trigger your sex or pornography addiction and take corrective action BEFORE you are stressed.
Most sex and pornography addicts have a first thought that takes them to their addiction. This thought is wrong. Increasing your awareness of "first thought wrong" will allow you to gain options other than sex or porn to deal with life's uncomfortable situations.
How do you get more of what you want in your marriage? You ask for it. How do you ask for it? By being assertive and using this 4 step model of assertiveness.