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Intimacy Disorders

In many cases we can connect the reasons why we seek therapy to an intimacy disorder. Intimacy disorders can be loosely defined as anything in a person’s psyche that creates barriers to developing, experiencing or sustaining satisfying relationships. By psyche I am referring to an individual’s beliefs, feelings, behaviors, and personality. And relationships can include [...]

Sexual Addiction- “Who do I get to be?”

A question that I often challenge clients to ask themselves is “Who do I get to be?” when being compulsive sexually. The sexual act could be anything from viewing pornography, going to strip clubs, hiring sex workers, or having affairs. There are a variety of reflections to this question. But what’s common is that clients [...]

Linking Invalidated Emotions to Sexual Addiction

Most people have experienced invalidated feelings. You feel cold and someone in the room with you says "What? It's not cold in here". Does that really change how you feel? Do you all of a sudden say "you know what, you're right, I'm not cold". Probably not. You're more likely to feel irritated. In a [...]

Why secure attachment is crucial for sexual addiction recovery.

When approaching recovery from sex addiction, why is it important to work with a professional who specializes in this area? One of the reasons is the knowledge that compulsive sexual behaviors are often less a product of sexual arousal, and more of an attempt to cope with unattended shame or trauma. With that understanding, those [...]

My partner has a sexual addiction, what can I do?

If you have recently discovered your partner has a sexual or pornography addiction, you might be overwhelmed.  So what are some things you can do to begin your healing process? In the recovery path of the partner, there will be some band-aid short term stabilization strategies, to get you through the initial days and weeks [...]

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