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Intimacy Disorders

In many cases we can connect the reasons why we seek therapy to an intimacy disorder. Intimacy disorders can be loosely defined as anything in a person’s psyche that creates barriers to developing, experiencing or sustaining satisfying relationships. By psyche I am referring to an individual’s beliefs, feelings, behaviors, and personality. And relationships can include [...]

Why secure attachment is crucial for sexual addiction recovery.

When approaching recovery from sex addiction, why is it important to work with a professional who specializes in this area? One of the reasons is the knowledge that compulsive sexual behaviors are often less a product of sexual arousal, and more of an attempt to cope with unattended shame or trauma. With that understanding, those [...]

My partner has a sexual addiction, what can I do?

If you have recently discovered your partner has a sexual or pornography addiction, you might be overwhelmed.  So what are some things you can do to begin your healing process? In the recovery path of the partner, there will be some band-aid short term stabilization strategies, to get you through the initial days and weeks [...]

Avoidant Attachment & Sex Addiction

Much of American culture values being individualistic, which can discourage having a reliance or dependence on others. You have probably heard someone say “I had to do it myself”, when describing how he or she accomplished something. On further examination, most stories like this would likely reveal at least one support person who helped in [...]

For the Partners of Sex Addicts (Part 3)

In this 3rd part of the series for the partners of sex addicts, we'll address some of the forms of trauma that many of our clients who are partners of sex addicts experience. Realize that not all of these forms of trauma apply to everyone. Our clients usually report more than one form of trauma [...]

For the Partner (Part 1)

I'll be writing in this series about the issues many of our clients who are partners of sex addicts face as they work towards healing from the addiction. I'll offer some ideas and suggestions for healthy boundaries, some things to do to take care of yourself, and, hopefully, some new insights that help you realize [...]

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