CoAddict to Sexual or Pornography Addiction

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CoAddict to Sexual or Pornography Addiction

Are you the spouse or family member of a sex or porn addict? If so, you know the pain the addiction causes you, your family and your loved one with the addiction. This is a difficult addiction to understand – it’s not like drugs or alcohol or eating or gambling. The intimate nature of sex makes this something special, something different – something more painful.

As difficult as it may seem, it’s important to realize and remember that your loved one has an addiction. It’s also important to realize that most “coaddicts” (the spouse and family members of the addict) very often have developed coping skills or beliefs that support the addiction. This is hard to hear, but it’s often true. If you hide the truth, look the other way, pretend you don’t know about it, find ways of your own to escape the pain of the addict’s addiction – any of these activities mean you’ve been pulled into the addiction.

Successfully beating the addiction is a combination of individual, group and family therapy. The addict has to unravel their addiction, determine the root cause of their behaviors and beliefs about sex, pornography, themselves, members of the opposite sex, relationships, and much more. As the coaddict, it’s just as important that you also look at these same issues to allow yourself to be healthy in your skin, to know who you are, what you want, what changes you need to make to support the addict, and how you’re going to get through the tough times.

The path to a healthy partner, self, and relationship is not easy – but it’s worth it. Having the life you want is possible. Getting healthy yourself is not only important, it’s critical. You have the right to be as healthy or healthier than those around you. Even if you can’t get your partner to therapy, go yourself.

Coaddicts deserve to live a better life, too.

About the Author:

Dan Gabbert holds a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology from Avila University in Kansas City, MO. Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist (CSAT), a rigorous certification issued by The International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).