Recently one of the men who attends my group told me that on the first night he planned to join us his anxiety about what he would say, who he would meet, what he might hear from others and the many other unanswered questions drove his anxiety through the roof. He even confessed (weeks later with a smile) that his spiking anxiety had triggered him to think about using pornography!
Of course, once he joined our group and realized the group is made up of men just like him – professional, intelligent, compassionate, normal guys – he was able to laugh at himself for the crazy thought that he was the only “normal one” battling sex addiction and that everyone else in the group would somehow be messed up…
Group therapy is a critical part of any addiction recovery. For sex addiction it is especially important due to the shame and embarrassment that comes along with anything sexual in our society. If you’re battling alcoholism and tell people you’re going to an AA meeting, you’ll get a “Way to go!” or “Good luck!” But if you tell someone you’re going to a sex addiction meeting, people start worrying about their children and wondering if they can trust you. It’s ridiculous, actually.
Group therapy is the one place you can talk about your addiction, be and feel supported, learn from others in recovery and experiencing sobriety, and make giant steps towards your own life of recovery.
Recovery is a way of life. Addiction is a way of life. Which will you choose?