One of The Triggers for Pornography and Sexual Addiction – Anger

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One of The Triggers for Pornography and Sexual Addiction – Anger

We’ve looked at the acronym which many addiction therapists work with their clients to identify their triggers – HALT. Hurt, Anger, Loneliness, Tired. Each of these, and other feelings, are often at the core of addictive behaviors which keep an addict stuck. By inspecting your feelings, you can start to beat your addiction once and for all.

Anger is a powerful emotion. I’ve had clients tell me that running to pornography or masturbation is the only way they know to relax. When they get angry, their “automatic thoughts” or first thoughts are to use their addiction to cope with the anger.

If you struggle with a sex or pornography addiction, consider the last time you fell victim to your addiction. Was anger involved? Were you in an argument or did something happen to make you angry? Think about the last time you got angry – how did you cope with those feelings?

If you find yourself thinking that anger is a predecessor to your addictive behaviors, you’ve found one of your triggers. Now that you understand at least part of the addictive sequence, it’s time to find other, better, more healthy coping skills to your anger. This might seem tough, since it’s foreign to you. Make a list of everything you could do to blow off steam when you’re angry. The list should have no fewer than 10 items. Once you have the list, consider the pros and cons of your options and make one of the good choices next time.

About the Author:

Dan Gabbert holds a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology from Avila University in Kansas City, MO. Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist (CSAT), a rigorous certification issued by The International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).