In middle school we often shift from our parent(s) to friends or siblings as our attachment figure. Later in life it becomes a romantic interest and eventually, for most of us, our significant other or spouse.
When we have Secure attachment we learn that our wants, needs and desires are valid and those of other people are also valid. Unfortunately, only about 50% of the population enters adulthood with secure attachment.
When our attachment style is insecure, we have trouble trusting other people or ourselves. This may end up in relationship problems, isolation, self-doubt, anxiety, depression, addiction, lack of trust or many other interpersonal and interpersonal struggles.
Our therapists operate on the idea that Earned Secure Attachment is possible, and we help our clients who are insecurely attached learn new skills and approaches to life so that secure attachment is possible and the attachment wounds form a lifetime of insecure attachment can be healed.