I’m watching Rehab with Dr. Drew. What a great psychiatrist and a great show to highlight the pain associated with addiction and recovery. The guys I meet with have many similar issues that Dr. Drew’s addicts battle, only most are on the emotional side, not the physical.
If you’re addicted to sex or pornography and have tried to quit, you know the feeling – the urge, the cravings, the way memories of your addiction overwhelm you and occupy all your thoughts. In the Rehab show, you see people jonesing with physical symptoms of withdrawal. With sex & pornography the issues are sometimes physical, but are mostly emotional – frustration, irritability, anger, resentment, and more – and are targeted at anyone around you. Of course these people are not responsible for the uncomfortable feelings. But they are the target because they are convenient.
What I hear from the guys I work with is that these same cravings – physical and emotional – tend to show up around week 3 of sobriety. If you think back to the times you’ve tried to quit and see where you stumbled and relapsed around 14-20 days, you’re in the majority. But, we can beat it.
If you’ve tried to quit and fallen back to looking at pornography or sexual endeavors, you know it can be difficult and the “need” to relapse is hard to keep at bay. These are the same things the addicts on Rehab (addicted to substances) talk about.
If you have any type of addiction – substance, behavioral, sex, pornography, anything – you have to check out Rehab and see how sad many addicts end up.
When you’re ready to beat your sex or pornography addiction, you don’t need Dr. Drew and you don’t need to go to a rehab center. You do need someone who understands your addiction, knows it’s harder to stop than your partner or spouse thinks it is, and someone who will walk you through the steps to a pornography-free life or a life of appropriate sexual conduct.