Steps to Overcoming Sex & Pornography Addiction

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Steps to Overcoming Sex & Pornography Addiction

A lot of people I work with – men and women – are looking for the steps to overcome sex or pornography addiction. It’s as if they’re looking for the magic pill or silver bullet. But, to borrow a line from Jimmy Buffet, “the God’s honest truth is, it just ain’t that simple.”

I wish there was magic in recovery, but the truth is it requires dedication, hard work, and changing behaviors. Here though are a few of the steps I take with everyone I work with:

Understanding the Origin: We’ll absolutely put some things in place to try and keep you clean and sober, but getting to the origin of your addiction is going to be key to stopping it and moving on. We’ll work to understand where it started, why you choose this particular addiction, and how you can replace it with something more healthy and less damaging.

Goal Setting: I ask everyone I work with to set goals around your addiction. Quit forever, cut back, don’t change – there are many options. Unless you have a goal, we don’t know if we’re making progress and we can’t tell when treatment has been successful.

Relapse Prevention Planning: In the early stages of sobriety relapse is likely. We’ll discuss the stages of relapse and put a plan in place for you to have a “life line” so you can make the call if you feel the urge.

Values Clarification: At the core of each of us are the values that we live by. Clarifying these values usually helps us see what we want and don’t want and becomes a roadmap to living a life free of pornography addiction or sex addiction.

Tools Education: You’ll need some new tools, new ways of thinking and new options to fill the void created when you stop your addictive behaviors and thinking. Part of what we’ll do is figure out new tools that work for you.

Silver bullets? Magic pills? No. Focus, dedication, commitment to change and hard work? Yes. You didn’t get here in a few weeks, so we need to increase the intensity if you’re going to change in a short time – and gain the benefits of a pornography addiction-free or sex addiction-free life.

 

About the Author:

Dan Gabbert holds a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology from Avila University in Kansas City, MO. Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist (CSAT), a rigorous certification issued by The International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).