For the Addict
A critical component of overcoming sex addiction is to work through your addiction with others battling the same or similar things. In this 20-week group you’ll work on the first 7 tasks of recovery including: breaking through denial, understanding addiction, learning a process, limiting the pain to others, establishing sobriety, ensuring your physical integrity, and participating in a culture of support.
If you feel shame about your addiction, your actions, or towards yourself, a group experience is a critical part of reducing shame and moving forward in your recovery. It is paradoxical – when you talk about the thing that brings you shame in a safe and supported environment, the shame begins to fade.
Ask individuals who have been in successful recovery for more than a year, and they will likely tell you that one of the most important things they learned was that developing a community of support has been vital in successfully maintaining sobriety. And not just any support, but the kind of support that involves accountability and challenging, without shame and judgement.
You may have had times when you tried to stop your behaviors on your own, only to return to them despite the pain and consequences. Addiction and the shame that comes with it thrives in isolation. Having trusted people who you can honestly tell your story to is the antidote.
Addiction support groups at Counseling & Recovery Partners are lead by a therapist and typically consist of 6-8 same gender individuals who are experiencing problems with compulsive sexual behaviors. Weekly group meetings consist of group members reporting on their sobriety; triggers and challenges; and most importantly, their successes. In addition, information is presented on a number of topics including addiction, communication, developing intimacy and empathy in relationships, and being responsible for living a balanced life with healthy coping behaviors.
For the Partner
When someone is injured, it is a natural instinct to seek out others for safety and healing. Seeking out that support may be difficult for partners of sex addicts due to the real or perceived shame from those you typically ask for help. Often, a partner’s self-worth is damaged and they wonder what is wrong with them, asking questions such as “Am I not good enough for him/her?” and “How could I not see that something was going on.”
You may be feeling very alone – like there’s no one you can talk to who will understand your situation. At least no one who will listen without shaming, blaming, fixing or giving you advice. A group experience for the partner of an addict is a great place to feel safe and talk about what you’re experiencing with a therapist and other women who “get it.” Often times friends, your sister(s), or your mom are the people closest to you and those who you think you can trust with this issue. Unfortunately you only find out if you can trust them after you’ve shared your story – and sometimes it’s then too late.
Our partner group is the place to get resources, talk to people who understand, learn about your partner’s addiction and learn how to work through the intense emotions your experiencing.
No one understands the reality of the emotions you are going through better than individuals who have experienced the trauma of discovering their partner is sexually addicted. Partners group therapy is an environment in which stories can be shared safely without shame or being blamed for a sex addict’s behaviors. At Counseling & Recovery Partners, groups typically consist of 6-8 individuals who have been through the discovery of a sexually addicted partner. In addition to sharing your story, you will also receive support and feedback on the boundaries you choose to set for emotional and physical safety in your relationships.
Partners who have gone on to experience trusting and intimate relationships have reported that the support they received in group therapy was crucial for their success in recovery. That recovery starts with sharing your story with others who understand the wounds you have experienced.