Talking About Sex & Pornography Addiction

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Talking About Sex & Pornography Addiction

Whenever a client finds me and reaches out for the first time, they always have a tough time talking about their addiction to sex or pornography. I understand that. It’s an addiction that is full of guilt, shame and embarrassment. If it’s a guy and his wife busted him, there’s even more of a desire to “hide” what’s happened.

Here’s the paradox – the guys I know who have beat their addiction talk about it openly. They share their struggles and face their past and future.

The guys I’ve worked with who grab the proverbial “bull by the horns” and talk about their addiction openly, honestly and from the heart seem to get past their addiction faster than guys who can’t say words like pornography, sex, penis, vagina, and other descriptors for their “drug of choice.”

I’m not suggesting you talk about a sex addiction or pornography addiction with anyone who will listen, or that you start up a conversation with the guy or gal in the line at the grocery store.

What I am suggesting is that talking about your addiction openly and honestly with your therapist and close family is a great first step in facing it and overcoming it. As long as you keep it in the shadows, it continues to lurk there. When you fully shine the light on it and talk about it openly, there’s no place for it to hide.

About the Author:

Dan Gabbert holds a Masters of Science in Counseling Psychology from Avila University in Kansas City, MO. Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) and a Certified Sex Addictions Therapist (CSAT), a rigorous certification issued by The International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).