If you struggle with an addiction to pornography or sex it’s likely that you struggle with the multitude of triggers that you experience every day. If you are struggling with your addiction and you want to get a handle on it, there’s a good way to start – figure out your triggers.
Some triggers are easy – a pretty girl, the waitress’s cleavage, the shape of a female jogging while you’re driving home, the sexual innuendos in movies and TV, and the list could go on and on. Many of these triggers are out of your control – being exposed to them – but you CAN control your reaction to the triggers. (We’ll get to that later.)
Some triggers are much more subtle. These are harder to recognize and might include things like stress, frustration, boredom, certain places or situations.
The best thing you can do to get a handle on your triggers is to think about the last several times you’ve used pornography or had a sexual experience. What was happening before the experience? What was happening in the hours leading up to it, the previous day or so? When you start to write these things down and keep track of them, you will begin to see patterns and possibly consistent triggers. When I’ve done this with clients, they discover triggers they never expected.
Try it for a week or two and see what you discover. If you find consistent patterns or triggers, the next step is to find other ways to deal with the uncomfortable issues that surface with these triggers.